I wish we could sit and have a latte together, and chat about life, our families and the challenges and joys we are both facing.
But today, I guess this will have to do. After getting a great response from my post about 3 easy ways to upgrade your marriage, I thought I’d continue our conversation with a few more ideas on spicing things up.
So, let’s jump right in and talk about seducing our husbands, shall we?
We all crave being connected to our husbands, yet in our efforts to win their hearts, we sometimes go about things the wrong way. Do you ever feel like there could be more “oneness” in your marriage than you have?
Here are 3 ideas that may help you build more intimacy in your marriage.
1. Tell him how thankful you are for how hard he works and provides. (Don’t nag him about all the things he’s doing wrong, ie, how he’s withdrawn after work, how he loads the dishwasher backwards or when he puts the wrong pjs on the kids).
2. Can’t believe I’m going to say this…I’m blushing as I type…BUT IT MUST BE SAID…Plan a few times a week to lead him “to the bedroom”. I know we’re tired and often “not in the mood”, but sometimes we just have to let our actions lead us to our feelings. Something tells me you won’t regret it 😉 (Don’t act inconvenienced or frustrated by his sexual advances- it’s his way of expressing love to you.) ‘Nuf said.
3. Rent a movie he will love, and that morning, tell him that you can’t wait to watch a guy flick with him. (Don’t ignore his hobbies. Learn to enjoy what he enjoys, and you’ll become his favorite play-mate. Quality time with our men…isn’t that what we crave after-all?)
How do these simple ideas sound to you?
Let’s continue with this “latte conversation”… I’d really love to hear your thoughts!
If you like this marriage topic, check out the post about 10 great questions to build a great marriage or this sweet letter from Paul Newman to his love on their wedding day.
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great ideas. REnewing Love!
Thanks, as always, for your encouragement! REnew… I like it!
I can’t agree with number two. If you’re not up for it, he will know. I’d be grateful for the effort but really, I’d rather you didn’t. I’d like sex every morning and every night but only with someone who is of the same mind-set. You can’t fake it.
Honesty and openness is a much better policy. If you can communicate well, you may be able to find something that you’re both really up for.
Thank you, Rob, for entering in the conversation! I appreciate your viewpoint, and am glad you brought it up. I agree that you cannot fake it. It must be from a genuine heart of love and with honest communication. Thanks again!
I would love to initiate sex, but my husband says that he is too stressed, etc… The idea that it is the lady who has the headache is a myth… Well in my case anyway.
Francie, I have been learning this stuff lately. Its a shame it takes so long to gfigure it out sometimes. I have been making sure I tell my husband how proud I am of him and sitting in his little man room with him to watch movies or even endure some football lol !! The jumping bones things well lets just say … it works lol !! Thanks for all the lovely tips and keep on writing them ! ! !
Hi Jennifer! It’s so true- we are all in a process of learning…and re-learning, right? So glad to hear that these ideas have been tried and true for you too 🙂
Love it! This is my first time to your blog, and Kevin texted me at just the moment I was reading “3 Easy ways to upgrade your marriage” so I told him. His response was “Do they include having your clothes off” so I told him I’d check out “3 ways to seduce your husband”…You are awesome to be writing about what it takes to stay connected in your marriage!!
So glad you (and your hubs) found something on here you like 😉 Glad you came by…don’t be a stranger!!!
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